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  Hello Everyone! Heres my story!

  by OneDayillBeFree in

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  i'm new here, and although i have been a lurker for several months now, its nice to finally dive in and join you all.

  i hope that i find some friends as thats what i'm really looking for, i've seen enough proof that theres real love outside of this religious prison that i've biult for myself over the years, but i would like to feel it firsthand.

  it's been a little hard to post anything since it's not easy being around in websites like these when you're still in and theres other jw's around sticking their noses everywhere, but now that i've found the time, i would like to share a bit about my story.... this is an email i sent paul grundy, (creator of jwfacts.com) and it basically sums up the story of my life... so i thought it would be good if you all had a read as well.

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  strawberry cake

  Hi

  Definately, get a good education.Knowledge is power.

  Make friends outside the organisation.

  and don't let the org ruin your youth. Have fun.
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  How many received the memorial invitation?

  by IMHO in

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  how well is this territory being covered?.

  how many on here (active jws excluded) received an invitation?.

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  A young man came to give me an invite. We spoke on the doors for 2 hours. I believe he has doubts and I am hopeful that he will get out of the org before it sucks away more of his life.
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  Hey its just me

  by What Now? in

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  2. friends

  i just wanted to introduce myself ... i've been following this forum for a few months and finallly joined.

  my parents became witnesses when i was four years old.

  even when i was younger i always had doubts (my sweet old grandparents were "wicked" and would be destroyed at armageddon???

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  strawberry cake

  Hi

  I've been where you are now, and left quite dramatically just over 3 years ago. We just realised it wasn't true and with a lot of support from this forum, we weighed up our options and decided to invite in the elders and ask questions. This led to instant shunning from 'close friends.'

  We couldn't do it any other way as we were so disgusted. I must say if you have a lot of extended family in the org, there will be great losses.

  I tried fading. But I couldn't stomach it. It was difficult lying to JW friends and faking it when I still considered myself a believer in God. For me the realisation was so profound that they all suddenly appeared to me like scary, brain washed zombies.

  I did try, in vain to maintain some relationships, but it was impossible. My advice to you is to make new friends now and to keep your real feelings to your self. Don't trust anyone. Start building a new life and slow down gradually in spiritual activity. If you do it gradually they may not notice too much. I on the other hand jumped from passionate pioneer to giving up all my studies. (I'm an all or nothing person)

  Wish you and the family all the best x
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  Blondie's Comments You Will Not Hear at the 02-27-11 WT Study (SING)

  by blondie in

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  review comments will be headed by comments.

  book of psalms._read psalm 8:3, 4, 7-9.. .

  praise god in song.. .

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  strawberry cake

  About a year before I left the organisation an elderly brother I was fond of was in a hospice and on his death bed. I went to see him before he died. we spent some time with him. Hoping to pray with him and to remind him of the kingdom hope and all that. I held his hand and as he was a keen singer thought he might like to sing song 15 'Life without end at last"

  Instead, however, he let out a beautiful rendition of a gosple song where he was going to meet the Lord in heaven. He sung it beautifully and as we were so caught up with everything emotionally, we kind of joined in with the chorus. I thought at the time. why is he not calling on Jehovah right now and singing kingdom melodies.Funny really, and he was a funny man.
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  The Mental Regulating of Jehovah is CHILD ABUSE

  by PublishingCult in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i was born and raised in the jehovah's witness cult.

  looking back at my childhood growing up in the organization and seeing the results of my own life, and dealing with the consequences of indoctrinating my own children with these beliefs, i am sickened and disgusted.

  it's never too late to learn, however.

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  yes, totally add I do see what publishingcult is saying.

  I think it was easier for me as I came in as an adult and had a different perspective on things. I was not brought up a JW myself, so I didn't have that mind set.
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  Update on my life since I left

  by strawberry cake in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i used to post here a lot a few years ago.

  this forum helped me out of the organisation with my husband and 3 boys.. we are now all more or less out and very happy.. me my husband and my youngest left almost instantly we realised the lie.

  my middle son gave us a little grief at first and then left when he understood what were were saying.

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  strawberry cake

  Hi

  I used to post here a lot a few years ago. This forum helped me out of the organisation with my husband and 3 boys.

  We are now all more or less out and very happy.

  Me my husband and my youngest left almost instantly we realised the lie. My middle son gave us a little grief at first and then left when he understood what were were saying. He is now at university.

  My eldest kept going for pragmatic reasons. He said he could not handle being shunned right now. He was 19 and was part of a large JW social scene. He now has a non JW girlfriend and hardly goes.He is working as an electrician. He absoluely does not believe it and says a lot of his JW friends don't either.

  It took a while for my youngest to get over the fact that paradise may not come. He became very concerned with the prospect of dieing. He is over this now.

  My husband is quite bitter about the WT and doesn't like to dwell on them.

  I myself am happily working as a Higher level teaching assistant and in my 3rd year of a BA in Education.

  So post JW my life has taken off beautifully.

  And thankfully, I did not lose my children.
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  Why Would YOU Never Go Back To The Witnesses?

  by minimus in

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  i think my mains reasons would be i don't believe they have "truth".

  and i refuse to allow them control over me..

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  strawberry cake

  I could never go back because I know it's not true and they now know that I know it's not true. So sitting in a meeting listening to crap, will be extremely nauseating. Meeting people, who I know, know its crap, but still go is nauseating and the pain of watching children being lied to makes me very angry.
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  The Mental Regulating of Jehovah is CHILD ABUSE

  by PublishingCult in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i was born and raised in the jehovah's witness cult.

  looking back at my childhood growing up in the organization and seeing the results of my own life, and dealing with the consequences of indoctrinating my own children with these beliefs, i am sickened and disgusted.

  it's never too late to learn, however.

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  strawberry cake

  Well, I left 3 years ago. I was very worried at the time about my 3 children and the impact my leaving would have on them mentally, after I had indoctrinated them with the belief that the watchtower was absolutely right and even if mum left they must not. I got fantastic support and advice right here in this forum and realised they would be more mentally abused if I stayed.

  I totally lived and breathed the Watchtower, pioneering with young children, yet I believe, I had a perspective which was foremost christian based. So I followed Jesus example of being loving, understanding and gentle with my children. Some Witnesses, went to extremes. I could see this was just plain cruelty and nothing to do with love.

  I took my children on ministry regularly, but only for an hour, if that, and we always ended up in the park or in our favourite cafe. This became a weekend ritual and the cafe people still remember us. We did family study and did plays, and always ended it with a tasty treat, that the children picked.

  However, I knew of parents who used up the whole of Saturday and Sunday on ministry and did not take their kids out enough. Also, those, who even prevented their child from reading too many childrens books so that they would have time to study.

  I tried making word searches etc for the long assemblies. Encouraged them to find words etc, but nothing could stop that level of boredom. my 2 youngest would peel their nails till it bled.I used to despair at what to do, and knew the WT was failing the children. This was abusive.

  I also stopped my boys from joining football teams, but encouraged them to play each weekend with the brothers. There is one brother who used to pick them up diligently each week to take them. I will always be eternally grateful to him. He even purchased a people carrier so that he could fit every one in.

  I encouraged sleep overs and took my children and other peoples children on day trips or out camping for years. Had fantastic times and still have fond memories. We even did the watchtower in a dark tent with torches. We made it fun.

  When it was time for my eldest to decided if he wanted to pioneer, I listened when he said, but mum I don't want to work in a supermarket all my life. I want more. How will I look after my family in the future. I helped him to get qualifications and now he doing well.

  I adore my children and wanted everlasting life for them. When I found out it was a lie, I loved them enough to be honest. Now we are all free. I have appologised for them not being famous footballers. We laugh at the ridiculous WT rules and have hopefully moved on.
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  Did You Ever "Enjoy" Being A Jehovah's Witness?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  one thing i've realized is that witnesses love feeling better than their fellowman.

  did being a witness make you feel better about yourself?.

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  strawberry cake

  At first I did when I thought it was true. I made good efforts to make serving God enjoyable, e.g organised events, gatherings, stopping at cafe' on the ministry etc...

  It took me quite by surprise how much I disliked the Organisation; the meetings, the singing, the elders, the judgemental bro and sisters, the lack of provision for the children; the moment I found out it wasn't true.

  I realise now that the brainwashing and repressed independent thought had prevented me from voicing what I really felt. Once I allowed myself to do that, I found the whole thing incredibly repellent.

  So in my delusion, as a 'brainwashed zombie', I enjoyed being a Jehovahs Witness.
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  Hey...no more lurking...

  by pmgirl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey,.

  this is my first post on this forum after months of reading and lurking on here.

  i'm glad to be able to say that my husband and i finally sent our letter saying we want out and are wait to hear back for a potential jc meeting--that we won't be attending.. we had so many doubts it was impossible for us to continue living the lie.

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  strawberry cake

  Welcome to freedom!